Saturday, March 5, 2016

Maraie Helene

Today's post was reblogged from "Into the Deep".  Read it all the way to the end . . .

The reality is sometimes we meet people that we cannot help or we have to ask them to live with their condition a little longer. We don’t always like it, we wish we could help every single person that came our way on the spot, but the hard truth is there are only so many surgery spots in a day or a surgery may require a surgeon with a particular expertise that may not be available for a few months. It’s difficult to explain to someone who has lived with a debilitating tumor for many years that they have to wait a little longer or that we can’t help – they often don’t understand, they feel like they’re going to die so why wouldn’t we operate right now; why would we wait? Why would we say no?

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The task of assessing patients, hearing their stories and coordinating schedules thankfully falls on people gifted with a grace and ability to juggle moving parts in a way that I am often in awe of. Our screening team this field service has evaluated thousands of potential patients in 11 cities throughout Madagascar. But sometimes we don’t have to go very far to find a patient, some patients come right to our “door step” showing up at our HOPE Center, our land-based facility where patients heal after their surgeries, on the hope that we can help. That’s how I met my friend Marie Helene and her sister-in-law Biviane.

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About 12 years ago Marie Helene noticed a bump on the right side of her face. She lives in a remote village but was able to have a local healer look at it. She was given some medicinal oils that did nothing but the bump was so small Marie Helene decided she wouldn’t worry too much about it. However, slowly the tumor grew and over the last three years the tumor began growing exponentially. It grew so large that it rested on Marie Helene’s shoulder and she often had to support it with her hand. I’m told it’s not uncommon for these types of tumors to grow very slowly at first and all of a sudden start growing exponentially.

Marie Helene and her family didn’t know what to do. Unable to work and help her children out in the fields, Marie Helene was looked after quite often by her sister-in-law Biviane. The two ladies, both in their 70’s, vowed to care for one another after they both became widows just a few months apart. They were more than sisters-in-law; they were the best of friends.

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Biviane was concerned that if Marie Helene did not receive help soon she would soon die. For months the two ladies had listened to travelers on their way home to the northern parts of Madagascar come through their village. They told a strange tale of returning from a hospital ship where they had experienced tremendous healing. People spoke of the foreigners on the ship and how well they were cared for and how everything provided was free. And then one day Biviane was visiting a friend in a larger city and she saw a news story of a man named Sambany, whose tumor was larger than Marie Helene’s and was removed. Biviane convinced Marie Helene to make the journey as the last hope to save her life. Marie Helene agreed and the two set off on a Saturday down the river from their village. After a half day canoe ride, the women rode public transportation for another half day before resting for the night. The journey continued with more public transportation, a cramped bus with people sitting shoulder to shoulder and no leg room through the winding Malagasy roads.

By the time they arrived, the ladies were exhausted, but glad to have arrived and eager to discover if we could help. A battery of tests and evaluation confirmed that Marie Helene was actually in excellent health except for the massive tumor on her face on a low iron count. She weighed in at about 95 pounds and it was estimated that about eight of those pounds was her tumor. I enjoyed getting to know the two ladies as the screening nurse worked on her tests and finding a surgery slot for her. They shared about life in their village. I showed them pictures of my family on my iPod. They giggled at the pictures of my two month old niece and said she had very chubby cheeks. We passed the time and became friends.

Although she was older than our typical surgery age of 60, Marie Helene was scheduled for admissions on Friday, March 4, which was three months away. For most patients that we meet, receiving an appointment date for surgery is an exciting moment, but for Marie Helene and Biviane, who just made a difficult journey, especially for two elderly women, they were crushed.  Marie Helene pleaded,  “I’m dead already. Please do the surgery now.”

Hearing her words I was reminded of Sambany, whose story inspired the ladies to place their hope in us in the first place; he said the very same words 10 months earlier when he also just appeared at our HOPE Center.  However, a surgery cannot be done simply because a patient wants it. In Marie Helene’s case, her iron deficiency needed to be treated ahead of her surgery and she needed to put weight on her very small frame to have the best chance for healing and survival during and after the surgery. The whole situation was complicated by the fact that we were beyond maximum capacity at the HOPE Center with more patients arriving that week; we couldn’t even house them for a night and sent them back home straight away. And this is the razor’s edge where logistics and compassion collide. Sometimes, like in Sambany’s case, everything lines up perfectly and we can bring the patient onto the ship immediately while we get them ready for surgery and sometimes like in Marie Helene’s case, not everything lines up perfectly and we do the best we can demonstrating love and compassion as we work through the logistics.

The screening team supplied Marie Helene with everything she would need for the next three months including protein packets to add weight. The screening nurse, translator and I stood on the dock as the two ladies boarded a bus, encouraging them that we would be standing on this very dock waiting for them on the morning of Friday, March and we expected them to be here.

Although today is March 4, I’ve known for some time that there would be no reunion on the dock this morning. I woke with Marie Helene on my mind and honestly, I couldn’t even bring myself to looking at the space until late in the day. As I finally made my way out there this evening and stared at the empty dock space, I thought about Marie Helene for a long time. I thought about the courage she showed in making the journey to the ship. I thought about her sweet spirit and determination. Most of all I thought about how she was no longer in pain, having succumbed to her tumor just a few weeks after visiting us.

When I do share these stories with friends back home, some inevitably ask me why I am still here. They ask why I sacrifice so much to be a part of what appears to be an uphill battle in a region of the world that isn’t getting better. There are two answers to that questions. One is, I believe we are winning this battle. I believe that healthcare can, and will be accessible to everyone one day.

And the second answer is that Marie Helene’s story deserves to be told outside her village. And sure this blog space has a small following and only a very small fraction of the world might read this but maybe these words will inspire one more volunteer or one more donor to support our cause. And that donor or volunteer may just be the tipping point needed to win this fight.

The need is great. Will you join us?

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